Updated: Jul 23, 2020
In this modern-day of Global Unrest, everything gets tested, especially our relationships and marriages. Many Christian marriages have gotten caught up in the charismatic juggernaut of "Smiling and Faking it" on the surface, presenting their "best side" in public appearances, secretly masking the underlying struggles to faithfully "stand in the evil day" Ephesians 6:13.
Truth be told, many marriages are under attack, and the current of unrest is getting stronger.
Today I would like to talk to you about a little utilized biblical concept called RECOVERY. The word "Recover" is found approximately 21 times in scripture, and is used in varying ways. We are more familiar with the term "renewal", which is very closely related to "recovery". But the word "Recovery" carries with it a strong sense of PROCESS. "Healing and Repair" is often a process. Processes require "Time". There are not always quick fixes for spiritual problems, we have to LEARN HOW to RECOVER! Our timeframes for RECOVERY will differ greatly based upon some very pertinent truths.
1.) Recovery in a Marriage requires surrendering to the will of the Great Physician. This surrender is to the Lord, and to His Kingdom (and it's principles). This principle of surrender is the first part of the process. No Surrender, No Real Recovery! In this Surrender Scenario, the marriage partner is not the focus. We cannot recover for someone else, we can only receive healing for ourselves. This would be like asking for anesthesia for the person in the adjacent hospital room, while you are the one that is enduring the pain. Recovery is first personal. Surrender, and wait (waiting is necessary, stillness is optimal, patience can be painstaking, His Rest will assist you) 'til the anesthesia (a tangible peace from God) sets in. Soon the Lord will perform the necessary surgery within the area of your personal need. Yes, Recovery comes before Reconciliation! Surrender precedes Recovery! Once personal recovery begins, we can move on to part two of the process.
*****Note: Reconciliation without Recovery is often prolonged through physical intimacy that only band-aids the deep wounds in a marriage. Sex is not recovery, though it can be a part of the process... So opt for Surrender before hopping in the sack...
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5
In other words: Take some time for RECOVERY
2.) Recovery in Marriage requires a strong "Spiritual Immune System" ... Recovery is also dependent upon the body's RESPONSE to dis-ease. The first responders are the "Immune System". There are times when our "Spiritual Immune Systems" are weakened through constant attacks and spiritual invasions. As the Body of Christ, we all have a spiritual immune system. The Substances of Faith, Hope, and Love are all sustainable and revivable in Rest. They may seem worn down and unrecoverable at times, but when we surrender to the one who "formed" the Body of Christ, He readily revives these substances in Rest. Recovery is often the result of Revival in Rest. When we are met by the all Glorious REST OF GOD, we are encountering an aspect of His Glory.
...and His Rest shall be KABOD (GLORY/GLORIOUS). Isaiah 11:10
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the Glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord. 2 Corinthians 3:18
While our focus is upon the Lord, beholding him as in a mirror or a glass, we are changed into that same image. The thing is, we have to continue to look into the mirror until all we see is Him. If we can still see the "SELF" image in the mirror, then we are not ready to walk away from it. Keep looking and waiting, a Glorious transformation will occur... Here it comes, the image of the Lord is arriving, we are being changed into that same image from Glory to Glory. This is so necessary for RECOVERY!
While our focus is on our mates, beholding bitterness and anger and unforgiveness, we are often changed into that image. No Change, No Recovery!
3.) Recovery in Marriage requires a Revelation of His Rest: I have often heard, or even perceived in my spirit this question. "What's all this talk about Rest"? When I perceive this, I understand it completely. In order for there to be a Revelation of His Rest, the "Eyes of our understanding must be enlightened"
Every biblical truth has a range of enlightenment. We can read the same scripture a thousand times, and each time, there is a potential to receive more light, more revelation, more of it's intended truth! For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity. 1 Corinthians 13:12-13
Here the Apostle Paul compares two things... Now and Then. Now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face. verse 12
This is how it is when reading the scriptures, or hearing from God. There is a progressive clarity of truth, and increased light. Notice that the Apostle says, "Now we see through a glass, DARKLY"
But, he doesn't leave us there, Hallelujah! The intention of the Lord is not that we would remain in darkness concerning the truth, but that we would experience an increase in light, and so he was prompted to pray to this end!
That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him: The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints... Ephesians 1:17-18
It is also very powerful, that he says that the greatest of these is love. This is the FULL RECOVERY of our Spiritual Immune System.
And now abideth faith, hope, charity (LOVE), these three; but the greatest of these is charity (LOVE). 1 Corinthians 13:12-13
I believe that there is an implied "THEN" concerning love in this verse of scripture. If we can be processed in love "Then" we will have experienced the Greatest of these spiritual attributes. Love is transformative, Love is self-less... I now pray for the Recovery of Love in His Rest for the furtherance of the call of God upon your lives and within our marriages. This Love is not of that Earthly quality, it is of The Father, and it is recoverable in Rest. Only surrender, He is taking us higher in Rest!
His Rest is a powerful part of that "inheritance in the saints" that the Apostle Paul prayed for. This Rest enables full recovery within our relationship battles. I pray for a manifestation of the Glorious Rest of Jesus Christ to enter deeply within your heart and soul, to the end that your relationships may fully recover and grow-up in Christ in every way. His Rest is Glorious ~ Shalom/Rabbonis Friends